Sunday, April 21, 2013

It's Marvin MOPS Week....Next Meeting This Thursday, April 25th


Hello Wonderful Moms!

We hope you had a fantastic weekend with your families!  As you prepare for your upcoming week, please don't forget our next MOPS meeting is this Thursday, April 25th at 10 a.m.  Join us as we welcome Dr. Danny Price, a pediatrician, from St. Paul’s who will cover the A through Z’s of infant and toddler health.  Questions such as when to take our little ones to the pediatrician will be answered and many more!  Please also come with any questions you may have for our expert!

We kindly remind everyone to try and arrive by 10 a.m. so we may start our meetings by 10:15 a.m.   
OTHER THURSDAY MEETING REMINDERS:

1. The RED table will bring food/drinks

2. FALL REGISTRATION has begun!  Don't miss out on securing your spot for 2013-2014.  Please bring your COMPLETED registration form (and MOPPETS form if applicable- if you will use our childcare), AND your $25 cash or check (payable to “Marvin MOPS.”)  In order to be registered, you must have BOTH a form and money submitted. 

3. Please DO NOT bring your child(ren) if he/she shows ANY signs of illness. Drop off time is 9:50-10:00 a.m. Please pick up your children promptly by 12 noon.
 
UPCOMING MOPS EVENTS:
 
1.  MOPS Mom's Night Out is THIS THURSDAY, April 25th at 6:30 p.m.  Meet us at Stanley's BBQ for our last get together of the year!

If you are UNABLE to attend this Thursday's MOPS meeting, please notify your TABLE LEADER. If your children are not coming, and are signed up for childcare, please also notify Stephanie Lamb (MOPPETS Coordinator) at steph.lamb@sbcglobal.net or 903-363-7447.

I hope to see you all on Thursday!

Have a wonderful and blessed week,

Debra Bochow
Discussion Group Coordinator

Saturday, April 13, 2013

Keep GOD on TOP of your list!...Meeting Minutes from 4/11/13


Dear MOPS Friends,
We missed each of you last Thursday and hope that you are all well, and will join us again at our next meeting on Thursday, April 25th.

Judy Carter opened our meeting with her special devotional that centered on the verse from

Proverbs 3:6:
In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.
As many of us are beginning to experience, the spring time for moms is a busy, busy time.  Our motherly duties center around our child(ren) and their many activities and commitments, and then as a wife, we have our homes and husbands that also require care and attention.  We may at times feel overwhelmed, with cluttered lives, half done lists complete, but in our every day “busyness,” does God exist on our list?  We must put him on top of our list, and NEVER MARK HIM OFF.  If we keep him on top, he will keep us moving in a straight path.  Our focus will turn to him and he will keep us on track and on target. Ask his spirit to GUIDE and ORGANIZE you.  How do we communicate with God throughout the day?  Through prayer…continuously, an open and ongoing conversation. 

1 Thessalonians 5:17
Pray continually

We were so honored to have Mrs. Sue Johnson join us and lead a wonderful presentation on “Getting Your Child Ready for School.”  Mrs. Johnson spent 33 years at Grace Community School, teaching in various grade levels, and spent the last 13 years as the school’s principle.  In a moment of honesty, Mrs. Johnson indicated Kindergarten was her favorite class to teach as the children were “untouched by the baker’s hands!”  Her talk was mostly in two parts.  She focused on two areas that were paramount in preparing our children for school…Character areas and Academic areas.

1.        WE, as mothers, will homeschool our child for FIVE YEARS!  Yes, we may not know it but we are!  We have them with us for their most formative years, and they are LEARNING from us.  From birth to age 5, we are providing their foundation for formal education.  YOU are your child’s MOST significant teacher in his/her life!

2.       CHARACTER AREAS…His Heart…Who He Is--- is much more important than what he knows!
a.       Respect for Authority (obedience)and Respect for Others (getting along)
                                                               i.      You, as the mother, must establish authority with your child (ren);  the teacher CANNOT do this for you!

                                                             ii.      You, as the mother, have to be concrete about obedience.  Your child must listen and do what you ask in a manner that is thorough, immediate, and done with a smile/good attitude.
                                                            iii.      Ephesians 6:1—Children, obey your parents.  It is the ONLY command in The Bible directed to children.

b.      Ability to Listen and follow directions and Concentrate
                                                               i.      Scholl is all about listening and concentrating…”give me your eyes.”  Train your children to look at you, show them you are listening.

                                                             ii.      Don’t ask or say it more than once

                                                            iii.      Check and see if they do what they said they would do

                                                           iv.      Concentration requires them to pay attention for an extended period of time;  let them stick with it!  The reward will be great whey they try and succeed!  BUILD MARGIN into your life to help them accomplish tasks (putting on clothes, shoes, etc…we are always so rushed, but take your time with these few things!)

3.       ACADEMIC AREAS…His Head…What He Knows.  Your child can be smart in OTHER ways besides, reading, writing and arithmetic!  Find out what he is good at, and recognize/maximize his strengths!  And they DO NOT have to be good at everyting!

a.       READIN’
                                                               i.      It is SO IMPORTANT to read to your children!  Help them to love the written word.

                                                             ii.      Don’t try to teach them to read.  Get them READY to read by saying the words together, and having them understand them (comprehension).  Also building their vocabulary helps with reading

b.      ‘Rithmetic
                                                               i.      Counting is essential.  They need to learn how to count to 100

                                                             ii.      Just make it fun!  Count objects out loud.  Avoid doing too many workbooks at home, they may get sick of it when they start school.

                                                            iii.      They should know their telephone number and address by the time they enter kindergarten.

It was a wonderful presentation, and gave many of us insight and practical skills to help our children prepare for school! 
Lastly, FALL registration has begun.  Please find attached a registration form for the new year, and a MOPPETS registration form if you will be using childcare.  Please remember to complete your registration form, AND bring in $25 for MOPS International (cash or check, made payable to “Marvin MOPS”) to the next meeting.  We need BOTH your complete form and dues to secure your registration and spot in our group. We hope you will join us for another great year together!

Debra Bochow

Sunday, April 7, 2013

It's MOPS Week... Join us this Thursday, April 11th


Hello MOPS Friends!

 

 We hope you had a blessed Easter with your families and will join us for a special MOPS meeting this Thursday, April 11 at 10 a.m. Mrs. Sue Johnson will be leading a discussion on parenting and preparing your child for school.  
We hope you will join us!


As we prepare for Thursday's meeting, please think about any specific prayer requests that are on your hearts and note them down for your mentors' prayer journals, or as a reminder during our meeting prayer requests. We also kindly ask that everyone try to arrive in our classroom by 10 a.m. for a prompt start!

OTHER THURSDAY MEETING REMINDERS:

 

- The PURPLE table will bring food/drinks

 

- Please DO NOT bring your child(ren) if he/she shows ANY signs of illness. Drop off time is 9:50-10:00 a.m. Please pick up your children promptly by 12 noon.

 


If you are UNABLE to attend this Thursday's MOPS meeting, please notify your TABLE LEADER. If your children are not coming, and are signed up for childcare, please also notify Stephanie Lamb (MOPPETS Coordinator) at steph.lamb@sbcglobal.net or 903-363-7447.

We hope to see you all on Thursday!


Have a wonderful and blessed week,
Sarah Burkett

Thursday, March 21, 2013

Parenting from the Guy's Perspective..."ENCOURAGE US!" (3/21/13)


Hello Ladies,

We missed each of you today at MOPS and hope that you are well, and are looking forward to the upcoming weekend.  As a quick reminder to all, our next meeting will be on Thursday, April 11, 2013 and we hope that you all return as we near the home stretch of our year!

As we approach the end of our MOPS year, Sarah and Sherry announced the new coordinators for next year, 2013-2014, Holly Freeman and Debra Bochow.  They introduced next year’s MOPS theme, “A Beautiful Mess…Embrace Your Story,” to the group.  Planning has already begun for another exciting year of fellowship, friendship and support.  It is their hope everyone returns to MOPS for what should be a compelling program and journey!  Fall registration will begin to take place at the next meeting.  Reserving your place in MOPS will be on a first come and first serve basis, so everyone is encouraged to complete and submit their forms promptly!

Today’s speaker was Mr. Zach Herrin, a counselor and therapist, and father to a 2 year old and 1 month old baby.  Understanding the role of being a parent, and also being a husband, he presented the topic of “Parenting from the Guy’s Perspective.”

In Zach’s eyes, the theme he often communicates as a therapist and counselor to couples caught in strife or difficult times is “help me to help you translate.”  Men and women communicate differently, and so often we miss each other on the simple things.  He in many instances helps the husbands communicate more effectively with their wives because of some inherent communication barriers.

Generally speaking, moms can be characterized as caregivers who create and live in a routine, are organized, oversee the safety and cleanliness of their children.  Our protective attachment to our children starts during pregnancy when during that time we avoid risky behaviors to protect the health and viability of our babies.   Dads, on the other hand, are characterized as caregivers who are messy, unorganized, risk takers, promote free will and indulge in rough house play.  So, which one is “right?”  A mother and a father are EQUALLY right and accomplish the role of being a parent!  Therefore, we EACH need to encourage ONE ANOTHER!  Different is NOT wrong, and we each balance the other one out. 

God is referenced as being a mother and a father in scripture, and he is with us and imaging himself to our children. 

In several research studies, it is noted that dads are NOT trying to live up to the expectation of being a “perfect parent” like the moms.  As women, the IDEA OF PERFECTIONISM reigns.  Your husband does NOT HAVE THE PRESSURE to live up to this “perfect parent” standard, but we need to learn from him to be more spontaneous and forgiving (of ourselves).  The dad’s capacity to “let go” encourages are our children to EXPLORE and grow. 

In looking at how a father has influence in their children’s lives, especially dads and their daughters, research indicates that fathers involved in their daughter’s lives offset risky behavior later in life, as this parental relationship provides confidence and stability in the young girl. 

So…how can we help our husband’s be more involved in our families’ lives? 

1.        ENCOURAGEMENT!  ALL MEN ARE INSECURE.  They need CONSTANT verbal, emotional, spiritual, and physical positive reinforcement.  Let them know how much you appreciate, love and respect them.  Show him affection.  This will make them want to be more involved with the children, or at home. 

2.       AVOID controlling and/or setting up parameters of behavior that is only acceptable to you and how you want it done.  Also, avoid being controlled in the relationship;  do not lose your own voice!

3.       Be INTERDEPENDENT.  You are both working together on the same team, but you are also individuals allowed to grown on your own.  Being independent sets you up as opponents, and dependent paralyzes you when you cannot function without the other person.

4.       AVOID mothering the man in your life.  That is NOT your role.

5.       Treat him as though he is RELIABLE, then he will be do the things you want him to do with the kids, or around the house

6.       COMMUNICATE what you want and need regularly.  Twenty minutes a day at a minimum, just the two of you, can help keep you focused on the same objective, and ensure you know one another’s expectations.

7.       And sometimes, you just need to LOOK AWAY and trust that your husband is doing the right thing, or is being responsible with your children;  whether it is rough house play, or letting them climb up to the tallest slide, you sometimes have to take that step and let him be with the kids in the way he wants.

We hope these takeaways will help all of us grow as individual parents and families!  With our busy and technology filled lives, the basic relationship between parent and child has become even more important as our children grow.  Why not make the effort NOW and course correct perhaps some early signs of detouring?  It can start with us, and today or tomorrow is a great time to begin! 

Hope you have a wonderful Easter!

Debra Bochow
Discussion Group Coordinator

Sunday, March 17, 2013

It's MARVIN MOPS Week...Next Meeting THIS THURS. March 21st


Hello MOPS Friends!

Welcome back from Spring Break!  We hope you had a wonderful week with your families and are ready to start a new week.  We have the privilege of having our next MOPS meeting THIS THURSDAY, March 21st at 10 a.m.  and the company of a wonderful speaker and compelling topic.  Mr. Zach Herrin will be leading a discussion on "Parenting from the Husband's Perspective."  We anticipate a very informative and interactive talk that will enlighten many of us who often wonder how our spouses think and would do about the issues we tackle on a daily basis.  Don't miss out!

As we prepare for Thursday's meeting, please think about any specific prayer requests that are on your hearts and note them down for your mentors' prayer journals, or as a reminder during our meeting prayer requests.  We also kindly as that everyone try to arrive in our classroom by 10 a.m. for a promt start! 

OTHER THURSDAY MEETING REMINDERS:

- The BLUE table will bring food/drinks

- Please DO NOT bring your child(ren) if he/she shows ANY signs of illness.  Drop off time is 9:50-10:00 a.m.  Please pick up your children promptly by 12 noon.
 
- Another gentle reminder to park across the street from the church as there will be an event hosted by Marvin during our meeting time.

If you are UNABLE to attend this Thursday's MOPS meeting, please notify your TABLE LEADER.  If your children are not coming, and are signed up for childcare, please also notify Stephanie Lamb (MOPPETS Coordinator) at steph.lamb@sbcglobal.net or 903-363-7447.

I hope to see you all on Thursday!

Have a wonderful and blessed week,

Debra Bochow
Discussion Group Coordinator

Sunday, March 3, 2013

It's Marvin MOPS Week...Next Meeting THIS THURSDAY, March 7th at 10 a.m.

Hello Wonderful Moms!
 
We hope you are having a wonderful weekend with your precious families! As you prepare for your upcoming week, please don't forget our next MOPS meeting is this Thursday, March 7th at 10 a.m. We are so excited to welcome one of our own MOPS members, Kimberly Lowery, who will present and provide information regarding self breast examinations as part of early breast cancer detection. Recent news and research has indicated a rise in the diagnosis of advanced breast cancer in young women ages 25-34. When women are diagnosed this young, usually the cancer is more aggressive. So please join us for this very important and timely demonstration. Following Kimberly's presentation, we will engage in more light hearted fare... GAMES. Let's test our knowledge about all things baby, toddler, motherhood, etc.! From past game days, we can assure you that you will learn something new, learn more about a new friend and have a ton of fun!
 
We kindly remind everyone to try and arrive by 10 a.m. so we may start our meetings by 10:15 a.m. This helps to avoid the rush and dash at our meeting's end.
 
OTHER THURSDAY MEETING REMINDERS:

1. The GREEN table will bring food/drinks

2. Spring Semester Dues will be collected ($50 with childcare; $30 without childcare). Checks are payable to "Marvin MOPS"

3. Please DO NOT bring your child(ren) if he/she shows ANY signs of illness. Drop off time is 9:50-10:00 a.m. Please pick up your children promptly by 12 noon.

If you are UNABLE to attend this Thursday's MOPS meeting, please notify your TABLE LEADER. If your children are not coming, and are signed up for childcare, please also notify Stephanie Lamb (MOPPETS Coordinator) at steph.lamb@sbcglobal.net or 903-363-7447.

I hope to see you all on Thursday!

Have a wonderful and blessed week,
 
Debra Bochow
Discussion Group Coordinator

Sunday, February 17, 2013

It's Marvin MOPS Week....Next Meeting THIS THURSDAY, February 21st at 10 a.m.

Hello Wonderful Moms!
It’s the start of a new week which also includes our next Marvin MOPS meeting, this Thursday, February 21st at 10 a.m.! We are so excited to see everyone again! Our leaders have planned for our morning to be dedicated to service. We will assemble baskets and blankets for two excellent causes here in Tyler; CASA and The East Texas Crisis Center. While working and contemplating about the much deserving girls, women and children we are helping, we will also have the opportunity to work with our tables, and intermingle more “getting to know you” activities. Should be an uplifting morning of spiritual encouragement, connection and service!
This Thursday, Marvin UMC will host their monthly seniors' luncheon. We ask that you park ACROSS the street from the church. In addition, we also again ask that everyone try to arrive in our classroom by 10 a.m. so we may start promptly. Everyone did a great job arriving on time at our last meeting, and we concluded without the rush or mad dash!
OTHER THURSDAY MEETING REMINDERS:
1. The YELLOW table will bring food/drinks
2. Spring Semester Dues are due this Thursday ($50 with childcare; $30 without childcare). Checks are payable to "Marvin MOPS"
3. Please bring any items for our CASA baskets such as cosmetic samples, scented soaps, lotions, etc.
4. Please DO NOT bring your child(ren) if he/she shows ANY signs of illness. Drop off time is 9:50-10:00 a.m. Please pick up your children promptly by 12 noon.
 
UPCOMING MOPS EVENTS:
- MOPS Mom's Night Out- NEXT TUESDAY, February 26th at Chuy's on South Broadway at 6:30 p.m.
If you are UNABLE to attend this Thursday's MOPS meeting, please notify your TABLE LEADER. If your children are not coming, and are signed up for childcare, please also notify Stephanie Lamb (MOPPETS Coordinator) at steph.lamb@sbcglobal.net or 903-363-7447.
I hope to see you all on Thursday!
Have a wonderful and blessed week,
Debra Bochow
Discussion Group Coordinator